Needless to say, I am so proud of both my daughters Sabrina and Scarlett. I see them growing into amazing young women every day. Still, I was surprised to hear that my oldest daughter, Sabrina, gets asked most, “How can I be a good parent?” She says we need to listen to our kids for the answers…
What Kids Want Us to Listen to About Parenting
I don’t know about you, but one thing that didn’t shock me was when Sabrina said…
KIDS WANT US TO LISTEN MORE!
Nonetheless, she did bring up five very strong points at my recent 10X Ladies event that ALL parents should hear…
Have a Balance of Barriers and Freedoms
My daughter admitted that complete freedom to do whatever she wanted was not a good idea in her speech.
I’M GOING TO REMIND HER OF THAT NEXT TIME I TELL HER, “NO.”
Instead, she encouraged parents to create a balance between what they can and cannot do. That way, children feel they are trusted, but also know the expectations.
That’s how you raise responsible, confident kids. You do so on a gradient. However, the next thing to listen to your kids on may be one of the most important…
Listen to Kids When They Need Love and Attention
Sabrina said something that hit me and the entire audience like a ton of bricks…
IF YOU DON’T GIVE ATTENTION TO YOUR KIDS, THEY’LL GET IT FROM SOMEONE ELSE.
And when I think back to my rebellious teenage years, I know my 14-year-old could not be more right.
I know that this can be difficult for entrepreneurial moms and dads. And, you don’t need to give up your career to do this successfully.
However, you must be vigilant for signs — spoken and unspoken — that you need to prioritize your children.
Otherwise, as Sabrina said, they’ll look for attention in the wrong places.
Allow Children to Contribute
Grant and I allowed both our daughters to help the family mission from an early on. So, it was refreshing to hear that Sabrina valued that.
Therefore, listen to your kids when they offer their assistance with chores or ask to help make dinner. Or, let them know that their doing well in school contributes to your family’s success.
That being said, you can’t expect your children to be upstanding, decent people if you aren’t showing them how…
Be a Good Example
More important than listening to your kids, is what they are hearing and seeing from you!
Even if your sons and daughters are young, don’t make the mistake of thinking that they don’t understand.
CHILDREN ARE INCREDIBLY PERCEPTIVE.
For that reason, act and communicate how you want them to with you and others. However, it’s also critical you can talk to your kids about anything…
Establish Open Communication
In her presentation, Sabrina emphasized that being able to come to me about anything without fear meant a lot to her.
NOW, THAT DOESN’T MEAN THERE IS NO CONSEQUENCES WHEN MY DAUGHTERS BREAK THE RULES.
In contrast, it does mean that when my girls have…
Questions…
Worries…
Or concerns about issues that come up, we can talk about them openly. From there, we can handle things maturely and appropriately before they become major issues.
But, there is one thing that Sabrina didn’t bring up, and the main reason I listen to my kids about parenting…
Why I Listen to My Kids About Parenting
This two-way communication has allowed me to build an incredible relationship with both of my girls. And, I treasure that.
Nevertheless, the purpose of parenting is to raise contributing members of society. To that end, listening to my kids has been invaluable.
After all, we need them to carry on and build amazing empires.
— Elena Cardone
Disclaimer: This content is intended to be used for educational and informational purposes only. Individual results may vary. You should perform your own due diligence and seek the advice from a professional to verify any information on our website or materials that you are relying upon if you choose to make an investment or business decision. Investment, real estate, and business involve great risk and there is no guarantee of performance or results.We are not attorneys, investment advisers, accountants, tax professionals or financial advisers and any of the content presented should not be taken as professional advice. We recommend seeking the advice of a financial professional before you invest, and we accept no liability whatsoever for any loss or damage you may incur.
