Help Yourself

This sounds selfish, but it doesn’t make it any less true… You must help yourself before anyone else to be successful. Don’t get me wrong. I have no issue with lending a hand. However, there is a way to go about it so you don’t compromise your well-being… 

The #1 Reason to Help Yourself FIRST

That’s right. I’m coming right out of the gate with why you need to look after numero uno above all…


And unless all areas of your life are thriving, you’re likely not there yet. 

This is different than collaboration, by the way. That is combining strengths to accomplish a goal. 

What I want you to consider while reading this article is are all these acts for others’ benefit

 them long-term… 

Or, are they just a liability all around? 

Do You Help Others (Instead of Yourself) For Good Reasons? 

Before you hate on me for saying that you should help yourself first, know this… 


But, a big part of that is empowering them with the tools to make it on their own. That includes being transparent about success and what it takes to get there. 

And, let me tell you, it is a lot of focus and hustle. 

So, ask yourself a few questions before you take your eyes off the prize to help someone… 

Are You the Right Person for the Job?

This one is easy enough to understand…

If a friend of yours needs assistance with something outside your wheelhouse, leave it alone. 

You wouldn’t try and do brain surgery if you weren’t a surgeon. It’s the same idea in day-to-day life — albeit on a smaller scale. 

Instead, point them to someone who knows what they’re doing. Your friend will appreciate it and you help yourself at the same time. 

It’s a win-win situation. 

Would Helping Them Stunt their Development? 

Harsh as it seems, you must let people learn some lessons the hard way. Doing this is difficult, especially with those you love most. 

But sometimes, it is necessary. In fact, one of the best things my mom ever did for me was cut me off at 25 years old… 

When you set those hard boundaries, it benefits them long-term. This brings us to the last question to ask yourself before you provide help… 

Are You Doing This to Help Yourself Feel Better? 

Finally, are you spending time giving advice and doing favors to stroke your ego? 

Believe it or not, some individuals go out of their way to prove they’re good people or are somehow better. 

Whether this thought has crossed your mind or not before, helping others for that reason is like an apple from a rotten tree. 

It’s not the best use of your energy. In that case, I suggest you reconnect with your purpose. 

Then, you can make a real difference in the world. 

When to Support Others 

Earlier, I discussed the reason to help yourself first is to be better able to assist others. 

Ideally, you would have an abundance of: 

  • Money
  • Time
  • Wisdom 
  • Contacts

Before you started helping others on a massive scale. 

Of course, don’t neglect people along the way. I just don’t want you to give away too much of yourself on your way to full potential. 

Be Great,

Grant Cardone 

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Star of Discovery Channel’s “Undercover Billionaire,” Grant Cardone owns and operates seven privately held companies and a private equity real estate firm, Cardone Capital, with a multifamily portfolio of assets under management valued at over $4 billion. He is the Top Crowdfunder in the world, raising over $900 million in equity via social media. Known internationally as the leading expert on sales, marketing, and scaling businesses, Cardone is a New York Times bestselling author of 11 business books, including “The 10X Rule,” which led to Cardone establishing the 10X Global Movement and the 10X Growth Conference, now the largest business and entrepreneur conference in the world. The online business and sales educational platform he created, Cardone University, serves over 411,000 individuals and Forbes 100 corporate clients throughout the world. Voted the top Marketing Influencer to watch by Forbes, Cardone uses his massive 15 million plus following to give back via his Grant Cardone Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to mentoring underserved, at-risk adolescents in financial literacy, especially those without father figures.