When you don’t want to do something, remember the phrase “assume the position”. Sometimes in relationships you have to assume the position. Elena discusses how regardless of how you feel you can assume the position. So often people are dependent on their feelings. Feelings are not who you are. Feelings come and go. Use feelings to your advantage, but feelings are overrated. Feelings have two directions—life or death. Good feelings bring life and bad feelings lean toward death. These feelings are indicators of something you need to correct. Learn how to use feelings for you. Keep reinventing your relationship and write your list of wants and needs. Give your spouse what they need and want. Assume the position of give, give, give. Whether it’s romance or sex, assume the position!